These two reasons are the only perpetrators and the main reasons why you as a dumpee may think that blocking your ex to get him back is a good idea. We had few texts in the first two week, then 10 days ago I went silent. Anxiety sucks tbh Im a good person i surely showed that to her and her family. Sadly, for the dumpee, no-contact is the only option, but this only option probably wont help his chances when he is out of the dumpers mind. He blocked me and It took about 3 weeks before i contacted him and we started talking. So my boyfriend and I broke up a little bit less than a week ago on Thursday, and I havent texted or talked to him since Friday, implementing the no contact rule. to name a few. Why the No-Contact Rule Does Not Work It's fair to say that a lot of people struggle to maintain 30 dayslet alone 60 daysof no contact with their ex. If the dumper feels guilty or remorseful for leaving the dumpee (especially if she left the dumpee for someone else), wouldnt no-contact actually help the dumper move on quicker? Answer (1 of 6): It more than likely means that your ex wants no part of you. Sometimes they focus on themselves and others and see no reason to go back to their ex. The no contact rule was born from this type of thinking. When everyone had gone me and her were downstairs, her brother mum and daughter had gone to sleep. Shall I give up or can I tell him I am here? This may spark an interesting debate though because if an ex boyfriend is using his own silence to hurt you does it mean that he would ever consider a reconciliation? He has a very busy job and is doing other projects outside of work so tends to be busy. She is the one with the emotional detachment issuenot you. Following the no contact rule with you may be their way of protecting themselves, or they could be using it to show their displeasure with you. The problem with stubborn men is that they wont want to communicate. Your ex wont forget about you if you go no contact. If he does happen to get in touch with you from anywhere between 21-30 days then I would consider that to be a pretty long time for an ex boyfriend to not respond to you. It just means that with some guys you are going to have to be the one to make the first step. What we need to do is to break this undesirable association. May I add she also had been saying to me the week we started talking normal again how we were going to visit Brazil end of the year, all the things we can do together after corona virus has ended! If you really think she is posting how happy she is to simply make you jealousthen youre letting her manipulate you. You start off with really high hopes that throughout this process he will end up contacting you. What does it mean if your ex boyfriend doesnt contact you during the no contact period? I made it clear I still wanted us to keep trying but she said she didn't think it would work out and wasn't in love with me anymore. I did not wanted really get committed too soon in a relationship and would have preferred to take my time too. We were planning a future together , things were going perfectly till she went out of town with work. Going no contact is particularly useful after a relationship's breakup, especially if you were the one who was dumped or betrayed. What do you think is considered a long time for an ex boyfriend to respond to you? They would have to date hundreds of people for that to happen. Its not that we dont care. Thats because youll rationally discern that your ex wasnt a bad person and that you wouldnt mind getting back with your ex. You get to control when the conversation is started and assuming you play your cards right when it will end. He said I deserve better and cannot wait. Because I have literally been in that position before. The second step would be to re-establish a new and favourable impression and associate you with good experience and good feelings. The breakup is here to teach you a lesson. So, the scene I have just painted above is pretty simple. A mans heart is stubborn. Be the one to end the conversation. What often happens when people hold their feelings in? Why would he even feel the need to get back at you?. Are you afraid your ex will forget about you during no contact? I tried to reconcile with no avail. I contacted some close friends to talk to him but he said he wants nothing to do with me. The no contact rule is meant to tap into that loss and cause an ex boyfriend to contact you but is that the true purpose of the no contact rule? I have no intention of getting him back or being with him . Her family loved me as well and they told me they will miss me even though I will run into them from time to time. They may not like dumpees and have much respect for them, but they dont just forget they dated them. we had our first sexual encounter and after that his behavior changed. The odd thing Ive put on social media hes never viewed. I dont what to make of it, since when she contacted me the last time it was to pay back money and to ask for my bank account number, but I went and took a look and she has that information since she payed money to me multiple times (I could see that on my bank account). It is a well known fact that I have talked to over 24,000 women through this site and let me tell you that when you talk to that many people you start to learn a thing or two. I have done some really shameful things when I have been ignored in the past. Once youve recovered to the point where you stop obsessing about your ex uncontrollably, youll see that the breakup happened for a reason (stupid cliche, I know) and that youre much happier now that your ex is out of your life. Its just the way it works. They are invested in avoiding their feelings.especially intimate ones like empathy, caring, love. And if you want to confide in us instead, do that by signing up for breakup coaching with us. She messaged me that week in the evenings, I never started the conversation once I thought leave her to give her space but when she messaged Id reply. Lets say that you are using the no contact rule on your ex boyfriend. I think too many women are conditioned by society to think that making the first move on a guy is wrong. Read this before contacting the mod team. Hai Julian.. follow the no contact rule for urself Not to get her back Work on urself Give time for yourself to heal The first few weeks may be torturous.. Do you think theres a way back for us? I have been through this several times. I am trying so so hard to push past my urges not to message him. What Happens When You Ignore A Breadcrumber? Look at this (she has a anonymous twitter account where she vent her fellings about everything), she does not know i know about it. This is SOOOO wrong on so many different levels. I havent messaged him for over 5 weeks. It would be healthy if your ex could forget about you for a while though. So, when you use the no contact rule on these type of men what is going on in their heads? Answer (1 of 3): I can relate to your girlfriend as I did the same thing recently with my ex. Sure, you wont be on your exs mind as much as you would if you annoyed your ex by begging every day. That will surely make your ex think less fondly of you and force your ex to move on with more determination and fewer doubts. My ex has a pattern of exactly 3 weeks after he breaks up with me to come back. Appreciate the effort though if youve replied. Do let me know if you disagree. Women who often visit this site message me asking something like, My ex boyfriend doesnt seem to be affected at all by the breakup. I suppose I could have done a better job of explaining the complexities of how this is all supposed to play out. Conclusion. This means your ex will think about you more during no contact if things dont go according to plan. But you shes right, you cant do that until you figure yourself out. What I should do? Youll appreciate your new partner that much more. I also didn't ever reach out to her and talk to her! Hello! He messaged me (1 time) 7days after the NC started, I responded him 4 days after message. And if he doesnt feel it, then maybe he just doesnt love me like he would love another woman. Your ex will think about you more because youll become mysterious and make your ex wonder what youre doing and how youre coping with the breakup. Also, I have the option to move out of state for a new job.should I take that, or continue to be in the same city, despite her not knowing where I am etc. With the help from my friends I started to notice that this relationship aint going anywhere. Thus, many women feel almost entitled when it comes to men talking to them. He suddenly flared up and told me he does not want to have anything to do with me and he has blocked me on all social media platforms. This is oftentimes for the best as unhealthy, abusive, and stagnant relationships need to end. I remember one time where there was someone I really wanted to talk to. Take your time when it comes to responding. My ex, who I will call Green for their privacy, had come to the sudden realization that they had Dissociative Identity Disorder around 7 . I have heard nothing. If you want your ex back because youre hurting and your relationship wasnt that great, you want your ex back for the wrong reasons. and yes i still love him and want him back but he with someone else and 4 days after saying he got new girl he told me to move on and let him be.i wonder what wrong i did.i still miss him alot and yearn for him and i was loyal to him whole time we dated.it hurts still and i want him backIm in rebound relationship with a man whose behaviour and temperament is like of my exwhat i do now..help me out thanks in advance , I need help and advise. How Does The Dumper Feel After A Month Of No Contact? Hello! We laughed a lot, had lots of fun together and didnt really argue. He broke up 3 weeks ago. Speaking from personal experience I can tell you that any time a girl I really like ignores me it bugs me on a deep level. I guess the main point I am trying to make here is that if you manage your expectations you will be much better off. 3. If you ever talk to her, it should be her idea not yours. What if HE was the one that broke up with you? Mind you create a rough timeline (with a period of time for each phase?) How long do you recommend I do no contact before reaching out? It can also be used to detach yourself from a narcissistic or abusive partner. Should You Go No Contact With Your Situationship? (Hey, who doesnt love a Captain American meme?). Well, today we are going to be tackling one of the most asked questions when it comes to the no contact rule. Your ex wanted to be independent. Your ex won't forget about you during no contact To start with a little bit of hope to cling to, rest assured that dumpers don't just forget dumpees. This is me taking responsibility for not explaining the no contact rule as thoroughly as I should have. Using the no contact rule with your ex-girlfriend is one of the best things you can do for yourself if you get dumped. You see, in their mind they feel entitled to a response. 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